It is a new month and if I think back on it, I can say it was a hard one. Having small children is not for the faint of heart! If you are a mother you might understand. The days can blur together, the sleep is never enough, and the days can be fleeting! This is why I use my Memory Planner. It is a way for me to document the light in what can be a hard day. Maybe you are a parent of a special needs child, going through depression, just had a new baby, or going through a big change in your life – you might understand what I mean…
Sometimes just looking for the little things that brought you joy can change your entire outlook on your day. I document these times most of all.
For example, today we decided to have a family movie night and watch Star Wars. We knew it wouldn’t be long before both children were running laps around the living room. It was all worth it because in the movie, when Rey kisses Finn’s forehead and calls him “friend” and my son mimicked the action to me by kissing my forehead just as gentle as Rey did. It was a beautiful moment.
It could be as simple as the sun shining; in the Pacific Northwest that is a rare blessing this time of year! Maybe someone smiled or helped you when you needed it most.
Sometimes, we need to make our own sunshine and do something for someone else so that we can feel better about our day! That is enough reason for me to do a random act of kindness!
If I get a card from someone or even a note or text that made my day, I make sure to include it in my planner.
I also make sure to add photos to help jog my memory about these good times! It really helps with those positive memories when looking back at the month later! I love this photo of my daughter watching the bowling ball go down the lane. You see, both children had melt downs at the bowling alley and we found out a family member had a heart attack while we were there. Yet, I am very particular about what I write about in the planner. I want to remember this sweet moment that Bre had with her father shown in this photo, not the rest.
Some might say that I am stretching the truth a little. I believe that I am just choosing what I want to remember. When my son gets older, he will probably remember how hard it was growing up with special needs. What I want him to see from reading this planner is that he was loved more than he ever knew and that we wanted to spend time showing him just that.
I can also look back at my month, today, and know that my life is full. It is beautiful. It IS filled with joy.